家长和孩子Parents and Kids

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          Many parents who welcome the idea of turning off TV and spending more time with the family are still worded that without TV they would constantly be on call as entertainers for their children. They remember thinking up all sorts of things to do when they were kids. But their own kids seem different,less  resourceful,  somewhat.When there's nothing to do,these parents observe regretfully, their kids seem unable to come up with anything to do besides turning on TV.

         One father, for example, says,"When I was a kid, we were always thinking up things to do. We certainly never complain in an annoying way to our parents: '1 have nothing to do! ' "He compares this with his own children today:"They're simply lazy. If someone doesn't entertain them, they' II hap-pily sit there watching TV all day."

        There is one word for this father's disappointment: unfair. He deplores his children' s lack of inventiveness, as if the ability to play were something innate that his children are missing. In fact, while the tendency to play is built into the human species, the actual ability--to imagine, to invent, toelaborate--and the ability to gain fulfillment from it are skills that have to be learned and developed.

         Such disappointment, however, is not only unjust, it is also destructive. Sensing their parents' disappointment, children come to believe that they are, indeed, lacking something, and that this makes them less worthy of admiration and respect. Giving children the opportunity to develop new re-sources, to enlarge their horizons and discover the pleasures of doing things on their own is, on the other hand, a way to help children develop a confident feeling about themselves as capable and interesting people. 

     谁欢迎关掉电视,花更多时间与家人的想法,许多家长仍然措辞,没有电视,他们会不断地对演员的要求为他们的子女。他们当时想了各种各样的事情做的时候,他们的孩子。但他们自己的孩子似乎不同,财力稍逊,somewhat.When没有什么做,这些家长观察遗憾的是,他们的孩子似乎无法提出任何事情要做,除了在电视上转变。

     一个父亲,例如,说:“当我还是孩子的时候,我们总是想最多的事情要做。当然,我们从不抱怨,在一个恼人的方式我们的父母:'1无关!”他说这就好比他的今天自己的孩子:“他们只是懒惰。如果有人不招待他们,他们'二厦门,棉花的坐在那里整天看电视。”

     有一个词这个父亲的失望:不公平的。他谴责他的孩子们的创造性的缺乏,仿佛可以玩的东西与生俱来的,他的孩子失踪。事实上,尽管游戏的趋势是将人类的兴建,实际能力 - 想象,发明,toelaborate - 并能够从中获益完成的技能必须学习和发展。

      这样的失望,但是,不仅是不公正的,也是破坏性的。遥感父母的失望,儿童来相信他们的确是缺少了点什么,而这使他们少值得钦佩和尊重。让儿童有机会发展新的重复资源,以扩大他们的视野,发现自己做事情的乐趣是,另一方面,这是一种帮助孩子自我发展的能力和有趣的人自信的感觉。

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